there exists a phenomenon in our household.
i call it the mommy pile-on.
as in, whenever i am sitting, lying, or otherwise still, i have two little bodies trying to pile on top of me.
this happens inside, outside, in a car, in a hammock, in a bed, on a bike, on the couch -
you name it, they pile.
as you know from my first confession, there is a part of me that treasures this.
however, it is tough to provide single-minded attention to anyone when the affections are piled on.
out from under the little arms and legs, i see my husband standing at the periphery.
his stance tentative, his view discerning - is this the time to join the pile or leave us bonding alone.
"is there room for me?" he asks.
{the kids love to smother me in triplicate}
and this is fun. it provides great validation. and meets a very deep need i have to be close.
but it has replaced a significant portion of time i would otherwise spend resting alone or entwined with my husband. and sometimes, i miss that time.
every now and again, i decide i want my husband all to myself.
i curl up into his lap and as the littles descend toward us, i put my hand out to stop them.
"nope, this is my time with daddy', i say. "you are not invited."
last time i did this, they stood on the periphery and watched. a little dejected. "it's not fair," they whine.
{add this to the list of reasons they will need therapy one day}
"well, i fell in love with daddy first and sometimes i need that reminder."
a part of me feels bad about turning their affections away but
a part of me finds reassurance that i still need {& want} to choose my husband.
confession number three:
sometimes i reject my children's advances.
{outright}
in favor of being close with my husband.
{first 2 photos are courtesy of www.margaretclairephotography.com}
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