Every year my heart gets a little green with envy when I hear how a friend's husband celebrates her birthday. It is a whole week of birthday celebration with a pile of little wrapped gifts for her to open, special time with friends, and usually a delicious something-or-other prepared in her honor.
Every year I am excited for her.
And a little green.
Every year I wish that my husband whom I love, {a lot} didn't have such anxiety about gift giving.
I wish he had more confidence about it.
I wish he enjoyed celebrations.
{he honestly doesn't care if someone celebrates his birthday or his anniversary or holidays and does not care about receiving gifts}
I wish his way of expressing love went beyond:
doing laundry, caring for children, cleaning toilets, grocery shopping, or making dinner.
{acts I for which I hold genuine appreciation. but they are, for me, part of being partners & don't extend past the ordinary tasks of life}
I wish he didn't default into long-ass deliberations about purchasing things.
{because I like receiving things...with spontaneity, accompanied by a birthday or not}
This difference between us has been the source of many hours of discussion {maybe tears were involved}
And played a supporting role in our almost-divorce many Christmases ago.
But this year, for my birthday, he made a plan.
He was secretive and thoughtful and anxious.
His plan did not work out exactly as he had conceived
{but}
It included a week's worth of out-of-the-ordinary considerations, gifts, and deliciousness.
{and}
I felt loved and celebrated.
old-fashioned goodness |
killer barbeque veal ribs and chicken |
grill-steamed greens & sweet potatoes {w/ cumin, crushed pepper & lime} |
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